When I was a little girl, I went to a fairy tale wedding. My cousin Kathy looked like Cinderella and the man she married had fallen in love with her at first sight. His name was John and known as ‘Crazy Johny’. He had wild black hair and a big laugh. He danced on tables, sometimes got into trouble and was known to disappear into the woods for days on end. He was intense….strong, fiercely loyal, always learning, positive and kind. He played hard and worked harder. That paid off. He had lots of friends, fun adventures and a beautiful house and family to come home to. His wife and their children were always the loves of his life.
A few years ago, my life changed. My Mom died suddenly. My Dad needed a lot of help. 2 of my 3 daughters left home. My business began to fail and eventually closed. It was a lonely and disorienting transition. I spent my down time playing Scrabble on the computer. I was surprised one day when my crazy cousin Johny challenged me to a game. That developed into a relationship that I will also be thankful for. He told me lots of stories that made me laugh and sometimes cry. Life through his eyes was a beautiful world to see. He let people be who they were. The ones he loved would always be loved, no matter what. He laughed, had fun and ate lots of good food. He was true to himself, his word and the people in his life. (there were many!).
I didn’t realize at first that he was battling a disabilitative disease though it was already into advanced stages. He didn’t allow his illness to define himself, his life or his relationships. Last week the illness claimed his life. It never claimed him.
I’m sorry, Cynthia. What a lovely tribute that is; especially the last two sentences.
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Thanks Jodie. He has been and will always be an inspiration for me
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I agree. Couldn’t have said it better.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m sorry for the pain of the empty place at the table. Thank you for sharing his beautiful spirit. God bless.
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Thank you, Judy. He is a beautiful spirit! His beginnings were so rough, it’s amazing that he became the man he was. I will miss him always but am so grateful to have known him
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Most touching, Cynthia. My commiserations
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Thank you Derrick.
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Thank you for sharing a glimpse of this beautiful soul with me. Godspeed his journey.
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Thank you Aggie. He is special and no doubt continuing to inspire and encourage others , wherever he is.
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Powerful. Thank you for the glimpse of ‘Crazy Johny.’ My sympathies on your loss.
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Thanks, John! He offered so much support and strength to his friends and family… and kept us laughing the whole time. We are shattered . All of us are better people for having known him
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I am sorry your friend is gone. But I like to believe that Crazy John is in the same dimension as my brother Bob who was dearly loved and is still – 5 years later – dearly missed. Hold on to the love he gave you. It never dies and it does soothe.
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I believe that too. I am sorry that you lost your brother. No matter how much time has passed, I am sure you still love and miss him. The world becomes a different place when people leave
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What a wonderful man, it is so special when our relations are also our best friends. I am so sorry for your loss and of course for the loss your cousin and her children must feel. hugs. Sharon x
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He was wonderful! Thanks, Sharon. My cousin and her children are in a horrible place right now. They are all very close and supportive of each other and strong themselves. The loss is terrible but they will be okay
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Beautifully written.
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Thank you so much
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So very sorry.
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Thank you!
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What a great eulogy. What a tribute!
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Thanks… He was just that type of person that any description of him would result in a great tribute:)
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I hope you will send this tribute honoring Johny to your cousin. It is truly beautiful. Johny was what I think of as a real man. He made others feel better when he was battling his own problems. What a beautiful person. You are incredible, too, Cynthia, because you “get it.”
Ginene
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Thank you, Ginene. He was a ‘real man’… And a self made man… Very protective and loyal, strong. He loved his wife and kids more than anything. They are amazing people too. He has a son that is very much like him
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Lovely tribute, and what lovely memories you have of a man who lived life to the fullest and loved to the fullest too.
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Thank you! That is the perfect way to put it
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What a lovely, heartwarming yet poignant story. Great that you have such fond memories to hold onto through the days, weeks and months ahead.
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Thank you. I am very lucky to have these great memories and to have known such an amazing man
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A touching eulogy. What a gift that this man came into your family’s life and so sad that he has now departed.
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Thank you. Truly a gift! We miss him so much
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So sorry for you – but what a wonderful friend you had, and what wonderful memories!
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Thank you, Ginger. I am so very lucky
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I’m sorry to hear about your loss, Cynthia. Your tribute to your good friend is very lovely and poignant.
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Thanks so much, Matt.
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I feel your loss, Cynthia. To have lived such a life as his and to be appreciated by one like you is more than one can hope for.
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Thank you, Mary! He did have a full and happy and adventurous life . Deeply loved by many.. You are so right.
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I’m so sorry for your loss Cynthia. And so warmed that such relationships exist everywhere. Your words are a beautiful memorial. I love that you know it didn’t claim him, love that.
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Thank you. I loved that just by being himself, he inspired and lifted up so many. I also love that it never claimed him… I knew it never could
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So sorry for your loss! To be mourned is to be loved, and it sounds as though John was dearly loved.
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So true, Laurie! thank-you
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He sounds amazing. Thank you for sharing. May we all be a bit more like that!
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He surely was! Thank you. I would love to be like that… a work in progress:]
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Dear Cynthia, I am very sorry to hear you have lost such a wonderful and supportive positive friend in your life. You worded it beautifully and I am sure his family will feel supported. My thoughts and prayers for you xo Johanna
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Thanks so much,Johanna!
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Wow, thanks for sharing your heart Cynthia…seems to be a theme this week. May he have a blast riding the clouds and watching his loved ones below celebrate his life!
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Lol, yes! I could picture him doing that;)
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What a truly lovely tribute, Cynthia! Heartfelt sympathy at this sad time. Sending extra hugs across the miles… ♡
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Thanks so much, Dawn.
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So beautifully written, an amazing person; may you find comfort in good memories.
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Thank you.. an amazing person! I will hold on to these memories and am so thankful for them
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What a wonderful person he was!
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Truly wonderful! He touched so many lives and is so very much loved
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Oh Cynthia I am so very sorry about your loss. Your story was so beautiful.Life hands us with so many things It was wonderful to have such a kind and interesting soul in your life. We all need people who love us and bring us to a higher lever. Crazy John was the one to do it. You will cherish his memory forever. HUgs to you
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Thank you so much, Carole. He made this world a better place, for sure. All of us that were lucky enough to have him in our lives are better people for it.
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Sorry for your loss, sounds like a great fella who will live on in story’s and memory’s 🙂
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Thank you so much. He certainly will!!
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A beautiful tribute to someone who seemed to live life on his own terms, yet gave much love to others.
How fortunate to have such a person in your life, and how sad his passing must be to his loved ones, Cynthia.
My condolences.
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Cynthia…I am so sorry for your loss ❤ I think he taught you some incredibly valuable lessons in the way he lived his life. Thank you so much for sharing ❤
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Sorry, your words were beautiful.
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Thanks so much.
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What a beautiful tribute!!! So sorry for your loss (I just found this post today–so it’s belated but still heartfelt).
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Thanks, Lori!
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